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I remember feeling similar when I was about your age. All of a sudden I looked around and, where I was spending my time, everyone was a lot younger and I felt out of place. I didn’t want to be the old guy in the room.

So I made changes. Big changes. Rearchitected my life, if you will. They were not easy. But I’ve learned a ton over the journey. I miss the old life, and I’m grateful for this life I made, worlds apart from where I was before. And I don’t think about how it could have been, because that’s not how it is.

Now I’m in a similar situation again. I’m evaluating what changes I want to make. I think a lot about where I’ve been and where I want to be in 10 years, which helps me shape my decision making.

But it’s the little voice inside that I have to pay real close attention to before I make any big change. When I feel out of touch with that little voice, I know I need to work on my spiritual connection.

It’s not an easy place to be feeling lost, out of place, not sure what to do. I know that feeling very well. I was feeling it yesterday like a ton of sand weighing on my soul.

But today’s a new day. And I’m feeling alive. Thank you for your post, and this chance to think through my own decision making. Carpe diem!



> All of a sudden I looked around and, where I was spending my time, everyone was a lot younger and I felt out of place.

I have the same feeling, and it's astonishing to me how quickly it happened. I went from feeling in the same age group as 20-somethings to feeling like their uncle in a year. I doubt I changed so much externally, but I'm amazed at how abrupt the change was.

It wasn't just a few things being out of place, then some more, then some more. I went from "I belong here" to "I don't belong here" basically instantly.


What kinds of changes did you make, what did you learn from it? How do you go about rearchitecting and decision making?




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