> You know, when I wrote that I genuinely meant it, or at least I think i did. I...

Daviey · 2026-04-09T22:32:33 1775773953

Yeah, I take that. I've thought about it much of this evening.

I think at the time I was frustrated, it felt unfair and I couldn't understand it.

Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

But that is where I should have stopped. The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive. I am owning that.

brazukadev · 2026-04-10T19:13:14 1775848394

> Then I thought,this guy probably does need more time off. Which was a genuine thought.

The thought was correct, he was probably stressed. You made it worse.

> The way i expressed it, whilst genuine thought, was expressed in a way which was passive aggressive

The way you expressed is a technicality, what counts here was your action.

Open source developers owe you nothing, you can always fork and implement your feature by yourself.

Behaving the way you did, treating it as something about you, is very selfish.

Daviey · 2026-04-10T22:00:31 1775858431

I've acknowledged everything you've said previously. Now why do you feel the need to continue it?

But I will add, they may have had a bad day, but that doesn't give the maintainer the freedom to be rude to others.

The fact is, I was polite, maintainer was rude, and I reacted badly to it and was worse.

But as you say, my choice was to not be further interested in the project... Which is what I said earlier.