> I think the better description you're looking for is, "The conversations aren't as rigorous as I'd like."
It's not that either, but then again it could be. We all have different ways of interpreting this. That's why the most important part of my post was trying to find people who could relate to what I'm talking about.
> But I'm confused. Do you really expect meaty, stimulating conversation when you go clubbing?
Not at all, but again this was just an example (a poor one it seems - which is what I was getting at in the post you responded to). I'll try to provide some context: Certain clubs have separate lounge areas for the purpose of relaxation, privacy, and social interaction on a more intimate level. My friends and I spend a lot of time in clubs and parties (some of them own clubs so it's nothing new to them), so when we go out we tend to spend more time in the lounge areas than at the bar or dancefloor. Occasionally a "serious" conversation will arise and that's what I'm talking about now. Now as I tried to explain, I'm not referring to one particular incident. I'm really talking about a pattern of behaviour.
> Also, you seem to be going out of your way to bring up the strip club. If you don't like it don't go.
I don't understand why you think that, or why you think the problem I have is with the strip club. I think you're exhibiting the behaviour that results from a poor incidence selection (that's what I was talking about in my previous post).
I tried to explain why I mentioned it (truth and contrast), and why I thought it was a bad example.
Of course, I could be wrong about everything here, or maybe I will just be misinterpreted/misunderstood again. But I think that trying to cover all my bases is unproductive. Case in point: How much value was there for me in explaining what I meant by "lounge in a club"?
> That's why the most important part of my post was trying to find people who could relate to what I'm talking about.
Right, but you still have to talk about it carefully. People here definitely got obsessed with your dumbing down comment. It's probably good to avoid words like smart or dumb since they can end up being a distraction.
> How much value was there for me in explaining what I meant by "lounge in a club"?
Explaining the lounge area was very helpful to me. The lounge areas in the places I've been to aren't really separate from the main part -- so not quiet or intimate like what you're describing. Your comments about conversation there make more sense now.
> I don't understand why you think that, or why you think the problem I have is with the strip club.
I see only two comments that mention it besides your own, and your original post has it inserted as a distracting aside. I was just observing, not trying to confront you. I get that you're trying to give an encompassing view of your social circle.
But then if it is supposed to illustrate patterns of behavior, does it mean you regularly do things with your social group that you don't enjoy?
But I'm confused. Do you really expect meaty, stimulating conversation when you go clubbing?
Also, you seem to be going out of your way to bring up the strip club. If you don't like it don't go.